Thursday, September 25, 2008

My Neck Hurts - What Can I Do To Make My Neck and Shoulders Feel Better?

My neck hurts today. So many things have been expected of me. So many things I expect of myself. Some things have been accomplished on schedule or even ahead of time. Yet so many of my goals remain elusive, out in the future, work that remains to be accomplished.

And so, my neck hurts. Who or what is a pain in my neck? My neck may be bothered by some people not giving me exactly what I want - today. But my neck really hurts. So, I believe it is not so much what other people are doing or not doing. I think my neck is telling me to give myself some space, some time, some relaxation. I think my neck needs some breathing room, some space to move around, some new flexibility to allow my mind to capture different views and alternate perspectives on my current life concerns.

So now, how can I help my neck to feel better? One way is to put a nice warm, moist heating pad on my neck and shoulders and sit quietly with my eyes closed for awhile. But I do not really have time for that right now.

So, I can stretch my neck in different directions
* circling around 360 degrees
* tilting my right ear toward my right shoulder and then my left ear toward my left shoulder
* turning my head as far as I can to the right and then turning it all the way to the left

I can use my own hands or a hand held vibrator to stimulate and ultimately relax the muscles in my neck and shoulders.

I can take some pain killing medication or have a few glasses of wine or other alcoholic drinks - I might not feel better but then I might not care anymore.

Or, I can elicit the assistance of someone else, preferably a licensed massage therapist or other type of bodywork therapist (e.g., shiatsu, polarity, craniosacral, Reiki, neuromuscular, Trager, Alexander Technique, Feldenkrais). That person can use their hands and their knowledge to soften the knots and release the tension in my neck and shoulder muscles.

And, if I really want to feel better, I can seek out a somatic body psychotherapist (e.g., Rubenfeld Synergy, Core Energetics, Rosen Method, Hakomi) to not only assist me to relax the tight muscles in my body but to also help me understand, at a deeper level, what is the emotional component that is causing me to not be able to let go.

The final option, the one I will probably do for now, is to briefly close my eyes and imagine someone else performing their healing magical touch while in my mind I allow the muscles in my neck and shoulders to simply let down, let go and relax.

3 comments:

Tom said...

Erica,

I really liked your article.

One thing I can really relate to, " so many of my goals remain elusive, out in the future, work that remains to be accomplished."

So, I guess I'll... "briefly close my eyes and imagine someone else performing their healing magical touch while in my mind I allow the muscles in my neck and shoulders to simply let down, let go and relax."

Your Truly, Tom

howardhughes said...
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howardhughes said...

Hi Dr. Goodstone,

first of all, thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment on the post that I wrote.

Now, what can I say after that? I find that, in life, the solution is always within us. It's an opinion that we have surrendered so much of ourselves, our responsibility, to others that when we're given a choice, we often look to someone else to choose for us. It's indicated by the question 'What do you think of...?' or 'Do you think I should...?'

As for the elusive goals, I'm going to take a bold step and say that this really is wasted and unecessary stress energy. If you're looking to relax, surrender what you can't control. “Render unto Caesar the things which are Caesar’s, and unto God the things that are God’s” (Matthew 22:21) I find the reciting of this a great relaxation technique. Sureender the need to be in control.

The only reality is Now. You can't change the past and you can't leap in to the future. As an aside, I have this romantic notion that the Future is the undisocvered country of my own design and each action I take on the journey towards it is a paddle stroke in the canoe.

To just BE is one of the simplest, most enjoyable things. To be present in your journey, to take note of how your surroundings change as you travel because even You will not be the same person 10 minutes from now and you will never be able to reach the person 10 minutes ago.

Breathe in... Ahhhhhh lol :)